Baring All: My First Naturist Experience

Less than a fortnight ago, a friend told me that he was a naturist. I’ll admit that I used to have misconceptions about naturism. I thought that it was a little weird and uncool and that it was only full of old men because they liked looking at young naked women. I thought that being a naturist had to mean eschewing clothes at every possible opportunity. I fell victim to the idea that wearing clothes was ‘the done thing’ and that it would feel odd to be nude around other people. How wrong I was. Within two weeks I have become a total convert to the idea that it’s okay to take your clothes off in public and feel good about it. The fact that naturist groups contain so many senior citizens actually stems from a surge of popularity which the movement enjoyed in the mid 20th century, which faded among later generations of youth. But age didn’t even bother me when I finally took the step of attending a nearby naturist swim session with a group of student friends.

The age demographic at the swim was mixed, with my friends and I being the youngest there bar a couple of children who came with their families. At no point did I feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. No one stares at each other’s bodies; no one walks around with an erection or makes inappropriate remarks. The sauna and steam room are great places to make friendly conversation and meet new people. Being naked whilst swimming, relaxing and chatting is treated as a fact of life, divorced from sexual arousal, and nothing to be self conscious about. From my experience, naturists are very accepting people; they see people for who they are rather than for what they look like. The swim also opened my eyes to the huge variety of shapes and sizes out there. Rather than feeling body conscious, I was comfortable in my own skin and judging from the reactions of numerous others who have tried naturism it is great for boosting confidence and positivity towards one’s own body. The thought of exposing a body which you’re not happy with among a group of strangers can be terrifying, because as women we have been brought up in a patriarchal, objectifying and shame-based culture. But naturism shows us that there is no one perfect body standard. Physical differences between humans of body type, size, gender, age and so on seem less important when viewed through the naturist lens. As Larry Darter observes in this excellent article:

“A lifetime of repressive taboos and censorship can be replaced with greater self-confidence and improved body image acceptance when a woman discovers that she experiences empowerment rather than intimidation, acceptance instead of rejection and humanization not objectification.”

Why, then, is nakedness so taboo in modern society when modern humans have been walking around naked for hundreds of thousands of years? The argument that clothes preserve “decency” and “morality” is merely a reflection of a fabricated social construct. Organised religion has inevitably played its part: think of Adam and Eve’s shame when they first notice their own nakedness, and of the requirements for women to dress “modestly” without exposing flesh. Clothing does serve a purpose, but being naked has nothing to do with lack of morality. We have lost touch with our natural state to the extent that even swimming pools – the most obvious places to be nude and comfortable with it – require us to cover our bodies with useless little bits of fabric. There is nothing innately unnatural and indecent about our bodies. For me, naturism is an embodiment of connection with nature and an indescribable feeling of freedom and liberation. I echo the words of CP Reece in Go naked; it’s good for everybody (but particularly for women):

“Bathe without a costume (they’ve only existed for about 150 years and they were invented by men to control what women wear and what women see) and you’ll never want to wear one again!”

Naturism is not about sex. A man who walks around with a huge erection or a woman who harasses other people would soon be asked to leave. What about those who are worried about getting uncontrollable erections at a naturist club? My male friend who accompanied me explained:

“If I’m attracted to someone it doesn’t matter if they’re naked, dressed, or in a potato sack, I’m still attracted…Well, boobs and such are fantastic. I am aroused by nakedness, when it is presented in an arousing context, much as I am aroused by someone in clothes, when presented as arousing.”

For many naturism is about freedom; relaxation; spirituality. For some it just feels good. There doesn’t have to be a deep and profound reason for going naked – it’s about what you’re comfortable with. Nor do you have to want to be naked all the time to get involved with naturist groups or take part in events. The sensation of floating naked in warm water, or treading barefoot through long grasses, or relaxing topless in a sauna, has to be felt to be believed. Shame, repression and lack of self esteem are damaging to our body image; the countries with the most liberal attitudes to the human body, such as Denmark and Sweden, are the best in terms of women’s self esteem and attitudes towards their bodies. In these countries, naturism is far less taboo and regarded as healthy and normal. It’s sad that so many people in the UK can only accept the naked body if it’s sexualised.

It’s normal to be nervous about trying new things and to be concerned about body image. Most people are before they experiment with naturism. But Stasha Boyd’s account of her first naturist experience speaks volumes about the way in which it can transform our self esteem and our attitudes towards nudity, the most natural thing of all:

“I’m a forty-two year old woman with your average, run-of-the-mill body issues. I was raised to believe that the flesh was something you mortify, not display; that social acceptance was more important than personal acceptance. And I just spent three glorious days at a nudist resort. Yep, three whole days in the sun, in the pool, in the spa, in the nude, in public and not only did I not die of embarrassment; I discovered a world of rejuvenation you can’t imagine until you’ve experienced it.”

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Useful Materials

http://www.bn.org.uk/articles.php/_/information/youth/youth-body-image-r91

http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2012/03/go_naked_its_go

http://www.bn.org.uk/youth/index.php

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/my-daughter-the-teenage-nudist/4od - a very interesting Channel 4 documentary about nudism amongst young people

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23 Responses to Baring All: My First Naturist Experience

  1. Pingback: All-Nudist » Another Woman Finds Nudism, But What About YOURS?

  2. Gerald

    Wonderful wright up and a great adventure.

  3. Jay

    Great story nothing more free than shedding the textile prison!

  4. Danee

    I LOVE your words and your report! FKK! (real fkk)

  5. Paul

    Lovely story and very sensible insights. Naturism is the most beautiful and levelling expression of self.

  6. I admire your ability to convey the normality of being in a naturist environment. Great article. Thanks for sharing with us.

  7. Beautiful. Do you mind if I use the picture in this article for my website about spiritual nudity? (sorry the website is in Dutch) I will of course put a link to your blog.

  8. Of course I don’t mind :)

  9. Elspeath

    I’ve always wanted to go to a naturist swim club/event thing but I’ve always been scared about the thought of it. Like you, I’m young (early 20s) and I’m wary that it’ll just be full of older people but your blog gives me hope and maybe one day I’ll just bite the bullet and go for it.

    • Paul

      Actually if I may add my thoughts here as someone who is now an old duffer in comparison to yourself. I was once a youngster like yourself who began to go to naturist swims and events on my own from mid to late teenage. I had the same concerns as you do in that I’d be the only young person there but I went along and enjoyed the naturism and the atmosphere so much that age became pretty irrelevent. Eventually some of my friends of my own age would accompany me to swims and saunas and I have always been fortunate in having naturist girlfriends. Anyway, the point of my tale is that I’m now one of the old duffers who was once a young and unsure naturist… getting old just sort of happens and most of the oldies that you’ll encounter will be the same. Youngsters who somehow got old. :-)

      The moral of the story is that if we don’t have young people like yourselves enjoying naturism then there will be no happy, relaxed and naked oldies in the future… and that would be a sad thing.

  10. Elspeath: if you have any friends who want to do it too, it would be a nice thing to do together, and having someone else your age that you know there is very reassuring. When I was getting undressed in the changing room, a youngish woman asked me “Are you new too? I’m so glad you’re here, I thought I’d be the only young person here!” I think it’s one of the most common fears, especially for women. Naked Vegan Cooking’s events are great for young people, and the naked bike rides tend to attract a lot of young people too :)

  11. Danee

    Alice., for a newbie, you give the best and most logical advice. I applaud you again.
    -Danee

    • Ed

      Agreed. I recently attended a nudist swim for the first time and was amazed how relaxed the whole event was! I have done life modelling many times (which I would definitely reccomend), but was still a little nervous about the more social side – but it really was wonderful.

  12. Liza Szabo

    For me naturism is normal and healthy for the mind and body. There is nothing sexual about it. For me as a woman, I cannot understand why on a hot sunny day I’m not allowed by law to go topless and braless just as a man does. Why is it that my naked body is regarded as sexual? I agree with full nudity and I intend to raise my children to believe and understand that it’s ok to be naked or my daughter to go topless to cool off on a hot, sunny day. Anyhow I’m from Canada and the laws are very strict here regarding nudity. :(

  13. I like this post. This is something I’ve been wanting to try for a long time, but I guess never had the courage. I don’t have any friends that are really interested in this, so I would end up having to try it alone.

    I think it’s a shame that it’s a taboo for most people. I actually wanted to put going skinny dipping or going to a naturist resort on my top 100 list of things to do.. but then got scared of what everyone else would think of me if I did that due to the misconceptions around it.

  14. Once you go naked, you never look back. :-)

    I have even been to a nude bar in Spain, adjacent to a nude beach. If you’re not naked, they won’t serve you a drink. I’m not sure why but I find that very amusing.

  15. Furthermore, most people don’t object to others being involved in naturism and many will accept nudity around them. See my article:
    http://www.michigannudebeachadvocates.org/Articles.html#article_Tales_of_Two_Naturists

  16. Larry Holman

    Great and very well stated blog

  17. Louise

    Alice, thank you for producing this insightful report on a naturist experience. Personally I am comfortable with the idea of being naked around the house, but I do not think I would be brave enough to go to a club, as I would be insecure about being the only woman in her 20′s, unfortunately none of my friends are interested in naturism.
    I noticed that in a reply to Elspeath you mentioned naked vegan cooking events and the bike ride. Are these events that you have been to, and if so could you please reply saying how the experience was for you.

  18. Naturism helped me recover from a long held low self esteem there is nothing better than being unclothed and free

  19. It’s good to read of young people enjoying just being naked. It is a freedom few discover in life. swimming naked always gives me a feeling of tranquility and relaxation not easily found elseware. I first visited a nudist beach in the Adriatic when on holiday with my new wife. Now over 40 years later i still enjoy the same feelings of freedom. Keep the activity up through your lives and spread the word of this wonderful, classless and ageless pleasure. Some of you have voiced varied opinions of “is there is a sexual element in naturism”. My experience is that if you a normal healthy person of either sex, then yes, there is in a small and insignificant degree of sexuality in naturism. To see a pretty girl or hansome women in her natural beauty is of course a pleasure and as the Irish say “glad on the eye” why not? One does the same when walking the street. We are all human and it is totally natural.
    As a lifelong naturist i find that one does not look at people any differently, naked or not. You don’t stare or creepily look. They are just people who enjoy a similar feeling of freedom. You take them in as a whole. This is exactly who they are. Un-adorned, natural, nothing hidden away, FREE.
    And yes again, there is a little exhibitionism in all of us when we take our clothes off on a naturist beach and take that first step, showing the world that we are comfortable with ourselves in just our skin, uncluttered with social positions or class and the like. Naked we are all equal, no badges of rank, just people, naked, happy and free.

    Neil, 65 years old and still 21 at heart.

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